You can’t force a tree to grow

I have attended a group coaching session that was organized by one of my fellow coach friends Nicholas Selway the other day. It was eye-opening, to say the least. I was the oldest among many attendees, much younger than me. One of the young ladies said something that stayed with me since that night. She said: “You can’t force a tree to grow.” First of … Continue reading You can’t force a tree to grow

Perfect or imperfect? That’s the question.

My name is Ipek Williamson, and I am a perfectionist. We all have seen the scene in movies or shows where the character says this sentence at Alcoholics Anonymous, though instead of “perfectionist” they use the word alcoholic. Even if you are sober for years and years, you still call yourself an alcoholic. It’s the same in my case. Because I’m not as big a … Continue reading Perfect or imperfect? That’s the question.

Are you a control freak?

If you refuse to delegate and try to do everything yourself, if everything needs to be done on your schedule, if you are a perfectionist, if you micromanage others and often judge others’ behaviours, you might be a control freak. We all need to feel safe as living beings. If we don’t have control over our environment to some degree, we can have a lot … Continue reading Are you a control freak?

No Regrets

I would think at some point anyone could regret something that they did or said, start thinking about “what if” scenarios and feel the guilt that’s attached to it. It is kind of impossible to be a human being and not to remember something that you did in the past which you regret at the moment. Everybody makes mistakes. It is normal. We learn from … Continue reading No Regrets