It is “You”, not “Them” – and you can fix it

Have you ever heard of the ancient Hawaiian healing system Ho’oponopono? It is essentially a process of letting go of toxic energies within you to allow the impact of divine thoughts, words, deeds, and actions.

I have found out about this phenomenon through a newspaper article a few years ago. I was quite intrigued by it and kept reading, started practicing.

This way of thinking says that everything you see, everything you hear, every person you meet are the experiences happening in your mind. You only think it’s them not you, and you think that none of the things happening around you is your responsibility. In fact, it’s quite the opposite: you are responsible for everything you think, and everything that comes to your attention. If you watch the news, everything you hear on the news is your responsibility. That sounds harsh, but it means that you are also able to clear it, clean it, and through forgiveness change it.

Accordingly, it is about rectifying an error in your thoughts. According to the ancient Hawaiians, the error arises from thoughts that are tainted by painful memories of the past. These thoughts come up in our lives as judgments, projections, anger, or negative self-talk. And when you practice this method, you bring mindfulness to your thought process, and you are also taking responsibility for everything that you experience.

The premise of Ho’oponopono is that if you recognize and rectify the origin of that thought in yourself, then you can begin healing yourself, others and the world at the same time. You do this from a place of love, by apologizing and asking for forgiveness.

I know it is hard to understand and accept this, and I would like to encourage you to read more about it or watch videos on YouTube, especially the one that contains a short interview with Dr. Hew Len, the Hawaiian therapist who made this a worldwide known and practiced phenomenon. That would help you to understand the whole concept better.

Practicing Ho’oponopono is simple. For anything that bothers you today, or in the past, just think about it and say this mantra as many times as you can, all day long and whenever you like: “I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you”. By this way, you accept your responsibility for everything happened or happening around you, ask for forgiveness, show your love and your gratitude, and then, let it all go.

I try to say this mantra many times during the day, but especially at night, before going to sleep, I repeat it non-stop, until I fall asleep. It makes me feel good. I hope it will make you feel the same way.


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